We are gold, not coal!


Abuse from the top down

“Every time we don’t stand down the primary abusers in our lives, we lose a little ground, we fade into the night, we die a little inside.  Rising above it may be a temporary balm, but at some point, we have to come back into our bodies and speak it.  As important as it is to reach a stage of genuine forgiveness where possible, it is even more important to assert boundaries with those who have violated ours.  It may well be why they came into our lives – to force us to recognize and claim our own value.”  Jeff Brown in Love it forward

Should we take it?


“One thing I have learned with certainty is not to stand in connection with those who diminish me.  This is particularly difficult when family is involved, because we have a vested interest in perpetuating the family system for all kinds of reasons.

I don’t believe one should endure abuse no matter how attached they are to an idea of family.  There are many families waiting for us just outside our habitual awareness.  We are not responsible for those who diminish us.  We really have to get that.  We can be compassionate and we can certainly understand where their abusiveness comes from, but understanding the origins does not mean we have to endure it.  It’s not our cross to bear.”

Written by Jeff Brown in his book, Love it Forward.  It speaks to me.  How about you?


The Armored Man


“The armored man is afraid of his heart, he is afraid of the empowered feminine, he is afraid of surrendering his egoic shield to something deeper, truer, more heartfelt.  What he doesn’t realize is that we are inextricably linked, so linked that when he denigrates the feminine, he imprisons and denigrates his own consciousness.  There can be no victories at the expense of the Divine Mother.  None at all.  It is time for a new paradigm, one that honors the wisdom of the feminine, one that soulebrates her courageous willingness to remain receptive, relational and compassionate in the heart of this still mad world.  Armored men – bow before her.  Sing her praises, dance in her wisdom and her love.  She is the path home.”  Written by Jeff Brown in Love it Forward in 1962 – more relevant now than ever!